The ability to work with others is critical to getting things accomplished. There aren’t many things you can do completely on your own. But working with others can be difficult, especially for those of us who are used to working with machines that do exactly what we tell them. So how do you work with others?
One way to improve your relationship with others is to transition from viewing the world in either or terms and start thinking both and. Imagine how much more we can accomplish if we truly work together rather than acting out of perceived self interest. Learn to apply this technique and give yourself a competitive advantage. Get your organization to think this way, and you’ll be tops in your field.
Let me share a personal example. Recently, I was asked for help from a coworker. My first reaction was to see the request as a big inconvenience to me and my people; requiring us to rearrange our physical workspace and planned work for one day. I could have responded in an us vs. them way, but that is very short term thinking. It doesn’t do anyone any good. It causes frustration, anger, resentment, and shows no concern for my coworker’s needs.
Instead, I looked at the bigger picture – the benefit to the company. I looked for a solution that met both her needs and my needs, and I found one that will work. The outcome is completely different than if I stayed with the either or mindset.
I realize this isn’t the natural way of thinking for most people. That’s why we see so much conflict and why we waste so much potential. The good news is this is a skill that can be learned. You can train yourself to think differently and act differently. I think you’ll find it a lot more fun and rewarding to work with others rather than competing with them.
See the links below for more information on how to change your thinking.
- How to Free Your Mind to Envision the Power of Both – Scarcity vs Abundance
- Scarcity vs. Abundance in Tech – good chart
- Scarcity vs. Abundance Thinking – great examples and good chart